COMMUNICATION ISSUES HELP.... My boyfriend isnt a communicator and we are really struggling?

First and for most your son is your main concern. What Im about to say is going to get me kicked out of the man's club. No matter what we say a women will always change us. Because if we really want to be with her we will change not only for her but for the relationship because we also want it to work. As men we all have had tough times growing up. But we can't let that effect our future. With that said if he's not willing to change give him some space. That means no calls,no texting, no type of contact what so ever. He has to willing to grow as man and confront his demons. Because if he don't that will not affect your relationship but it might affect your son.